Queen Latifah is covering the new issue of Good Housekeeping. She reveals how being molested as a small child by a babysitter and other tragedies led to alcoholism. She survived it all and is offering up her story so maybe others can too.
Check Out Some Of The Interview Below:
"There's probably no reason I should be here as an African-American girl from Newark," Latifah says. "And for a lot of the things I've wanted to do in life, I haven't looked typical," she adds, referring to Hollywood's beauty standards. While other aspiring actresses might have compromised themselves to win a role, Latifah has famously declared, "I was not born a size 2. I'm not skinny, period. I'm not willing to sleep with the director or step on somebody else's neck to get the job."
On her brother's death:
My life was rocked to the core…I felt guilty, because I was angry at God. ‘Lance was not there for me to share it with, And I was thinking, Well, I don’t need this. I’d rather have my brother back.’
Getting therapy thanks to the urging of her friend Jada Pinkett Smith:
We ignore our feelings a lot, I realize. Many of us have to…until they really bite us in the butt. What set me free was looking at it from a different perspective, I was 5, manipulated and afraid. You have to say something. The power of those who perpetrate the abuse is your fear and your shame…and that’s unacceptable.
On her past drinking problem:
Drinking a bunch of alcohol, numbing myself. Every day I would be faded, like a painting that’s just not vibrant, whose edges are dull, I wasn’t living my full life.
On how she got through it all:
I was continuously praying, I realized that wasn’t helping me or my brother. I learned that God was going to provide comfort; I know He is always listening and guiding…I got this little message in my head that I feel was from God. It was as clear as day, like a voice that said to me, ‘Dana, don’t let it all go, because you’re gonna get through this.’ Nobody is perfect. I know that I’m not a saint, but God’s love is there for me. I know that I need help to make it through every day, so I pray to God to help me do the best I can, to lift me up when I am tired and help me develop into the person He wants me to be…I am always surrounded by His love, and He is always there.